As Much Pain A Mother Would Feel, So Would A Father
Jan 28, 2012
Everyone talks about how important mommy is to the kids. Mommy is everything as far as kids and parenting is concerned. Mom cleans the home. Mom prepares and cooks the meals. Mom prepares lunch boxes. Mom clears the laundry. Mom wakes the kids (and sometimes partners or spouses) in the morning.
Mom is basically…bionic.
And who can blame people when they consider mothers as pillars of homes? Mothers are to be loved, appreciated and credited for all the hard work that they do for the entire family, ever so selflessly.
It was only through the experience of someone else that it suddenly felt that dads were left at the sideline most of the time. Fathers’ contributions are sometimes debunked and labeled as ‘necessary’ and also considered a ‘responsibility’, therefore, he should just shut up, sit down and continue doing his job of putting bread on the table.
Times have changed, somewhat. Mothers are bringing in the bread too in many households all over the world. This somewhat belittles daddy’s importance in the home unless daddy has a very strong presence in caring for the kids too…which is not often in many societies, communities and countries.
It was only through the experience of an acquaintance who took to online social networking sites to express the grief, pain, and anguish of not being able to see his kids because his wife took every cent he had, his kids, his car, his home and left with another man, for me to see the father’s side of things. I am sure there are two sides to every coin so, without knowing the nature and reason for the decision, whatever it is that caused her to throw everything away and refuse the man his chance to be with his own kids, I think it is safe to just conclude that….well, something went wrong and both sides are to blame.
However, whatever it is that went wrong, it is always a better solution to not involve the kids whenever the grownups are fighting. They do not deserve to feel the guilt of being in the middle of an adult war.
His message to his kids and former wife is….to say the very least….heart-breaking. I could feel the pain because if something like this was to happen to me and I was the dad in question, I would feel completely helpless and incomplete. It would feel like the world exploded into a million pieces and I want so badly for everything to be OK again but it won’t happen because I don’t know how to do it.
In conclusion, I saw in his message, the pain that is very much like the kind of pain that I would feel as a mother. Daddies have feelings too. They form attachments to the kids. They miss the kids too. As much pain a mother would feel, so would a father.
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